This is about observing growth opportunities and reframing which is essentially a different way of looking at a situation, person, or relationship by changing its meaning. The essential idea behind reframing is that a person’s point-of-view depends on the frame it is viewed in. When the frame is shifted, the meaning changes and thinking and behaviour often change along with it. Imagine looking through the frame of a camera lens. The picture seen through the lens can be changed to a view that is closer or further away. By slightly changing what is seen in the camera, the picture is both viewed and experienced differently.
1: Ask yourself when was the last time that you were in a situation where you felt like you were experiencing déjà vu because decisions being made were identical to ones that had been made before, without any consideration or better logic. Do you recall how you felt? Alternatively, if you’re in a circumstance right now
2: On the left-hand side of the following grid, write down the existing challenges you are facing. Don’t worry about the middle and right-hand side parts yet.
3: Study each challenge carefully. Think about how the challenge could be a growth opportunity if it were to be looked at in a different way. The way I do it is to think “Yes, this challenge is tough because [insert reason] but the good news is that I [insert something that looks like a way of growing or learning]”. For example, if the challenge is “I don’t resonate with the people around me right now”, the growth opportunity dialogue could be “Yes, this challenge is tough because I’m unable to change my environment today – but the good news is that I can now be more specific in who I wish to spend more time with.”
4: In the far-right column you can now record your chosen way of re-framing what has happened. From the moment you write down the re-frame, the way you think about the challenge should now be in the words of the re-frame rather than how you worded the existing challenge. In the example from the previous point, a chosen re-frame could be “The current group of people I’m around isn’t ideal right now, and I am sure that we are all evolving greatly from the experience.” Choose your own version that is more aligned with how you would ascertain the growth opportunity and re-framing. Either way, the outcome is to comprehensively adjust your view of the original (and no longer existent) challenge.
Give it a try.